ADDICTION Forum covering ALL addictions.

Hi,my names Cat,and my best friend is an alcoholic.I found out when she told me two years ago,and iwas really shocked as she'd hidden it so well from me.Only her family knew.At the time she was going to appointments with the drug and alcohol team,which her dad used to take her to.But i felt so much for her i offered to drive her there.As she drove herself to the shops etc which worried me az she was drinking a lot.Then she stopped eating and was scared to leave the house and was very depressed.Every day i was there for her,listening to her talk about her past abuse and her bad relayionship with her mum.(she lived with her two children at her parents house with them).I could see she was getting so much worse and it broke my heart.It sounds weird but when we were together she used to support me too with my anxiety and depression and look after me as i did her.She startef being sick every day and tried several time to get of the drink.Her drug and alcohol worker managed to get her a place at rehab and she went away gor five months.That was a year and a half ago.While she was there she got close to a male resident and when she got out started seeing him.I wad worried it might not help her recovery but it was her choice.She used to travel several hours most weekends to go ans see him.What really upset me though is that she changed from being a really caring person to seeming not to care about me much.We had been so emotionally close before she went away and she spoke to me in rehab and promisef me we would do lots of stuff together when she came out,including moving her and her kids out of her parents house.Non of this has happenef and shed hardly been in contact with me.We've met up a few times and we text each other sometimes.But in january of this year she said she couldnt see me as she was so busy (she doesnt eork

dont know why but i couldnt see what i last typed so have had to start a new pot.She said shes been trying to sort her life out.A couple of months age she texted me that after being depressed she'd started drinking again,although last week told me she isnt now.The thing is before she went to rehab she argued a lot with her mum as she wouldnt support her and her dad didnt either,he even bought the drink for her.She took an overdosd one day to kill herself,and when i asked her mum where my friend was she kept saying she was at the docters.I panickef for three days not knowing what happened to her until she rang me.I even went to visit her in the local detox unit,which she'd been in several times before.I know she needs time to sort herself out but its been a year and a half since she went to rehab and shes still a shit friend.I was so stressed out and brought down when she drinking i went through a lot with that.I dont think she means to be a crap friend and i know she has to concentrate on herself,i dont expect much from her.But it really hurts me how cold she is and i feel we are now not so close and it breaks my heart.I miss her so much.She says she still loves me and carez about our friendship (by text) but wont see me or speak on the phone.My other two friends say shes treating me really badly and i should give up on her but we've been through so much together and i love her very deeply.At least i think i still do.I couldnt bear the thought of us never seeing each other again.Is it normal for addicts to completely change their personality so much after rehab?To me shes selfish in a bad way,as she doesnt seem to care about anyones feelings but her own.She says shes not trying to hurt me but when i say she has she just carries on doing it.Please can anyone give me any advice here?